It’s not enough to have a collection of heart scraps. Thoughts and feelings need space to be turned and churned and processed. This is called aerating.
In garden composting, some bins are designed to be aerated by turning them with a crank handle or pivoting them around on a base. Others are simply a container for collecting refuse which is then aerated by hand using a pitchfork or shovel. The air breaks the compost down to do its work.
In heart composting, there are various ways to aerate thoughts and feelings.
Safe friends help to turn over what is churning in your heart, preparing it to be dumped out to do its work. Safe Friends have processed with me over coffee, email, phonecalls, even texting! The key is to find someone who you can trust with your heart, because they have proven themselves trustworthy. There is always a level of risk involved in opening your heart to relationship with others.
Counseling helps to process what is going on internally. I talk with a counselor about specific issues that arise when I need someone with extra clarity, perspective, and experience to help me handle them. These days, there are lots of triggers going off as I relate to my husband and children, so that objective, outside perspective helps me see what is going on in my heart.
How is your heart composting going these days? Consider what it looks like to aerate your thoughts and feelings and plan a little space to try it!